Such Bad Luck?
A holiday conversation about The Soul's Curriculum.
What do you think about people who have really bad luck?
I have a friend who has just had lots of bad stuff happen.
This was the text from a friend on Christmas Day — never a bad time for a deep conversation — following a recent coffee chat where I had explained my view of the world: that our soul chooses the major events and circumstances of our life in order to set up a unique “curriculum” through which we learn the lessons we came here to learn.
From the gender we choose to be born as, our sibling order, our parents and inherited ancestral karma, our talents and gifts, our health challenges, and even the timing and circumstances of our passing — my belief is that our souls have chosen it all.
I have had many teachers share this wisdom with me over many years, but it was only through a recent personal experience that I came to a deeper understanding of this truth, as it exists for me.
Her message went on to explain some of the details in this “series of unfortunate events,” including illness and other challenges touching both this person and many of her closest loved ones.
My response:
I love this question!! There are lots of elements to my answer.
I believe that our souls choose our life and the essence of what our challenges will be in order to give us specific life lessons. If we’re not put through deep challenges, we aren’t forced to grow. So those with bigger challenges are either forced to grow — allowing these experiences to shape them in an empowering way — or to let them define them as victims.
What I have learned as the ultimate lesson of incarnating as humans is to learn love and unity. It is always available to us, but we tend to believe it’s only accessible when good things happen. So X having all these awful things happen will give her the capacity to love deeply, to be present, and to hold a depth she may never have needed to develop without the pain she has been through.
I have also learned that we each have specific lessons — some around self-love, some around self-worth, and others entirely unique. So beyond universal love, X would have her own specific lessons that her soul wanted her to learn.
People who have suffered deeply and not become victims are so important to our world. They carry immense empathy. They can help others simply by being able to sit with someone in their suffering, without taking it on as their own.
I do still grapple with the ultimate mystery of it all. I think it’s something that cannot truly be grasped with the human mind.
The reason I wanted to share this exchange is because the soul’s curriculum is, at the deepest level, the philosophy behind the work that I do in my healing clinic through Kinesiology, Flower Essences, and Astrological Guidance sessions.
My role as a practitioner is to guide my clients to recognise the soul lessons sitting beneath the pain they are experiencing. With this awareness, they are given the opportunity to choose to transmute their pain into power — allowing their life experiences to shape them into their highest version of self and to evolve their soul in a meaningful way.
Many clients are already walking a path of deep awareness, but for others this is a completely new concept. Identifying the root cause of an issue allows us to zoom out and, together, view the forest rather than the trees. This awareness alone can bring profound relief.
Life will always offer choice points. We can rise to our experiences, harness our personal power, and choose to meet them — or we can become victims of them. Neither is inherently good or bad, but we get to choose how our life is lived and defined. We are the sole masters of our choices.
There will always be challenges, disappointments, and letdowns. But when we allow ourselves to truly be in the experience — to transmute pain into power — our hardest moments become the access point to the version of self that lives with the most love, the most grace, the most peace, and the most wisdom in the fleeting time we get to be “down here”.
Maybe none of us are here to avoid suffering, but to discover who we become in the moments that ask the most of us — and how deeply we are willing to love because of them.